Your reminder to slow down and realign
I’ve been thinking a lot about the conversations happening around feminism lately… and honestly, I feel like somewhere along the way, the movement started leaning a little too far into “we must do things exactly like men.” And that’s where I think we’re losing the plot.
My grandfather once explained something to me that has stayed with me forever.
Police officers wear bulletproof vests. A flat vest fits a man’s body. But on a woman, it presses painfully against her chest. Equality would mean we all wear the exact same vest. Equity means women get a vest designed for women — one that honors the reality of their bodies, their needs, their strengths.
That’s how I see feminism. Not “same,” but “fair.” Not sameness… but support.
Because men and women aren’t the same, and that’s the beauty of it.
A woman’s most valuable asset is her intuition. When she’s connected to her feminine energy, she feels things others don’t. She reads rooms. She understands people. She anticipates needs. She leads with empathy. That is a superpower.
And the moment we start trying to operate exactly like men, ignoring our intuition, pushing through exhaustion, pretending we don’t need anyone, we disconnect from the very thing that makes us extraordinary.
And you know where I see this show up the most?
Real estate.
The women I see thriving, truly thriving, are the ones who lean into connection. They trust their gut. They build real relationships with their clients. They see people deeply. They don’t bulldoze their way through the job; they flow through it.
The most successful people, men and women, are the ones who build community and lean on it. Equity in real estate means honoring our different strengths.
Some clients will naturally gravitate toward a woman because of the way she listens, the way she communicates, the way she makes them feel seen. And that’s not something to hide, that’s something to celebrate.
But when women try to hustle like men, never ask for help, do everything alone, compare themselves endlessly, and push through burnout… they eventually start hating the business. They get tired. They get overwhelmed. Some even fall into depression. Because we weren’t meant to operate that way. We’re social beings. We need our tribe.
Women don’t need to be “more like men.” Men don’t need to be “more like women.” We need each other. And we need to honor what makes us individually powerful. And if you’re a woman in real estate right now feeling burned out, stretched thin, or like you’re failing… please hear me:
If you practice self-care daily — even if it’s only five minutes — everything changes.
Happiness creates energy, and energy creates business.
The way you feel is the way your clients will feel about you.
Does that mean you don’t need systems, processes, structures? Of course not — those matter.
But your well-being is the foundation. When you protect it, everything else flows so much easier. Because when women show up in their full, intuitive, feminine power… there’s nothing more impactful.
